"From the rising of the sun to the place where it sets, the name of the Lord is to be praised." Psalm 113:3

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Welcome Home!!!

Tomorrow we are gathering to welcome home a hero.  My dear friend is getting her hubby back.  The Navy has had him deployed for nine months, and boy, has his family missed him!

Today we made posters to help welcome him home!

We missed you, Mr. Rob!  Welcome Home!

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

This Isn't My Story...

We sponsor a child through Compassion.  Sweet Isaac, who I will introduce you all to someday.

We have our family's reasons for sponsoring.

Take a look at why another family has chosen sponsorship.

Do you have a reason?

A Stillness of Chimes...A Book Review

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A Stillness of Chimes, by Meg Moseley, is an entertaining, suspenseful Christian mystery. 

Laura Gantt comes back home to Prospect, Georgia to settle her mother's household after her untimely death.  While there, she uncovers rumors that her father, thought to have drowned twelve years earlier, may actually still be alive, and wandering through the town.  Laura is understandably shaken, especially when strange events begin to happen around her.

Laura draws on the support of her childhood friends, Cassie and Sean, to help her find out what is going on--but now that they are all adults, things are a bit more complicated than they were at age 12.  Cassie is home and hiding from her own perceived failure, now taking care of a mother who seems to be mentally slipping.  And Sean is still reeling from a childhood romance with Laura that came to an abrupt end--and an abusive father who still comes around to stir up trouble.

A Stillness of Chimes is an easy, enjoyable read that will leave you wondering throughout the whole book about what, exactly, is going on in that little Georgia town.  If you are beginning to look for some absorbing summer reading, I would definitely recommend starting with this novel.

Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Victus Study Skills System...A TOS Crew Review...

Every once in a while, we are asked to review an item that, at first glance, doesn't seem to mesh well with what we are learning at home.  When we were first chosen to receive the Teacher Edition and Student Workbook from the Victus Study Skills System, I was initially less than enthusiastic about it. 
After all, we are homeschoolers.  Isn't part of the deal that we learn somewhat less traditionally than those in public schools?  Aren't study skills just for those standardized-testing public schoolers?
I will freely admit it here.  I was so very wrong about this system, and we were so very blessed to be chosen for this review.
Let me tell you why...
What is the Victus Study Skills System?

The Victus Study Skills System is a systems approach to studying, based on the idea that learning to study, and learning how to learn is a way of life ("victus", in Latin).  As our children get older, there may be times when we are expecting them to go and "study", or go and "learn from that book", without much direction on what that actually means or looks like.  I think that homeschoolers may be especially prone to that--I know that I am.  Coming from a public school background, I have studied for many tests over the years, but my children NEVER have.
They won't know what it means to be able to do it effectively--unless I teach them.
Going along with the idea that learning to study is a way of life, the Victus Study Skills System addresses things like:
--organization and time management
--motivation and goal setting
--note taking and test taking
--reading with better comprehension and efficiency
These skills are taught to students within the framework of self-assessments to find where the student is now in their habits, helping them to identify where they want to be, and determining the best way to get from where they are to where they want to be.
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What Did We Receive?

We received one copy of both the Teacher Edition ($40) and the Student Workbook ($20) to use in our homeschool.  Although there is information on the Victus Study Skills System website about using their materials with children as young as 4, the books are most appropriate for 5th-12th graders.
The Teacher Edition is an 82-page, spiral bound notebook that fully explains the Victus Study Skills System philosophy, foundational cornerstones, and objectives for the course.  It gives sample course plans and suggested ways for using the material, and then offers an overview of the ten lessons contained in the course.  Each lesson begins with a section for the teacher, covering the purpose of the lesson, any preparation needed for the teacher, and the suggested procedure for teaching the lesson.  There are also copies of the student text within the lessons, so that the teacher can make sure they know exactly what their student is seeing in their book.
The Student Workbook is another soft cover, spiral bound notebook that is 65 pages long.  It also briefly covers the objectives and idea of the course, but then quickly goes into the material needed for the lessons.  The workbook is black and white, and contains fill-in-the-blank answers, checklists, places for drawing notes, and an Appendix of helpful forms, strategies, and flashcards.  Here is a sample look at the Table of Contents.
How Did We Use the Victus Study Skills System?

I used this system with my oldest, who is 14 and in 8th grade.  We used it together, in short bursts of lesson time, with me preparing ahead of time and teaching the lesson, and my Turtle working through her Student Workbook during the lesson.  
The course is an approximately five hour course, and one sample schedule given in the Teacher Edition gives five days to teach the lessons.  We went much more slowly, but were able to finish the entire course in a matter of weeks, spending about 15-20 minutes a day working through the books.
What Did I Think?

I was very pleasantly surprised by what both my daughter and myself learned by using the Victus Study Skills System.  Although I didn't initially think that it would be a benefit to us, it has definitely become a blessing.  And next year, when my daughter goes into public high school, I think it will be an even bigger blessing!
First of all, I thought that the content of the course was relevant, interesting, and important for both of us.  The material made a great deal of sense to both of us, and Turtle enjoyed using some of the checklists provided to learn things about herself, like her learning style and her current study habits.  What's more, once she discovered those things, she was able to gain skills that helped her to use her learning style and study habits to her advantage.  For example, with her being a very visual learner, it is important for her to write things down, several times, when trying to remember them.  She also learned fun tips like using sticky notes on her bathroom mirror to help her recall important information.
We both learned why her current preferred method of "studying"--stretched out on her bed--while comfortable, may not be the best choice for retaining information.  Too bad for her!
I learned that she thinks it is only necessary to spend one hour in the library to get enough facts for a research paper.  And that she believed that she would only need about a day to get said paper written well.  Now, Turtle is not only getting ready to go into high school, but she has been accepted into a very rigorous program in that high school.  I'm pretty sure she is going to need to spend much more than an hour working on papers.
Thanks to Victus Study Skills System, so does she--now.
As we have been working through the course, Turtle has made some positive changes in her study skills.  She has cleaned off her desk, and although she still does do most of her work on her bed, I have seen some evidence of work being completed on that desk.  She has perfected a color-coding system while taking notes that she used in studying for her latest Algebra exam.  And she has purchased a planner--and written in it in order to keep track of the time she has free to get things done.
There are a few things about the course that were a little difficult to figure out.  One of these is the "fill-in-the-blank" pages in the Student Workbook.  When we used them, Turtle simply filled in the answers as I dictated them, as I couldn't find another way that was suggested.  Because of this, I sometimes felt that she was not quite as engaged and was working simply to complete the page.
Also, I felt that oftentimes in the course, it is directed to a much bigger group than one teacher and one student.  That was, however, easy to work around, although there were some "preparation" activities that we chose to skip instead of try to adapt.
There is a bit of preparation time for the teacher that will make the course the most interesting and important.  I think it is possible to use the course as pick-up-and-go, but I definitely think that would detract from the overall lessons.
Overall, I felt that this course was very valuable to us, and will only continue to become more valuable as Turtle transitions to other teachers.  I hope that she continues to go back to her workbook and the information she gained from the course to best succeed in her schoolwork, and in her life goals as well.
What Did Turtle Think?

"Victus really gave me good ideas on how to study.  It helped me a lot...and will help me even more.  I enjoy doing the activities, like making a schedule and organizing my days."  (Turtle, age 14)

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Friday, April 4, 2014

Emotions in SPD: Part 2...

You may remember that a few weeks ago, I started a series talking about different emotions that are a part of Sensory Processing Disorder in our family.

And by series, I mean that I wrote one post and was so emotionally drained that it's taken me about a month to try another one.

Because the first feeling that I wrote about was Anger.  And I realized that I really was pretty angry--about a whole lot of the SPD garbage.  Thankfully, it seems that I wasn't the only one who has felt that way and had the insanity to admit it in public. 

Also, thankfully, I have set up a pretty darn good support system.

So now, a month later, I'm ready to tackle another one of those sticky emotions.  This one, I'm going to call FEAR.

This one, although a bit easier to admit out loud, is harder for me to deal with on the inside.

See, I think lots of people understand anger.  I mean, look around on a daily basis.  Road rage, rolling our eyes at the person who dared bring eleven items into a ten-item-or-less line, pushing to get the best spot to see the concert...we've all experienced anger.  Like all the time.

But fear?  It's not nearly as cool to admit that we are fearful.  Because, after all, we're the grown-ups here.  We're the ones who have everything in hand.  What on earth should we be scared of?

Well, I'll tell you:

I'm scared for the future.  I'm scared that Firefly might not be able to do things--that she might be held back by this invisible disability.   That she won't be able to function in a job.  With a child.  That her sensory processing problems will affect her relationships, friendships, business future.

That she won't notice that they do.

I'm scared that she might never be able to leave my home.  That scares me both for her, and for me.  I'm scared that people won't understand the fear.  Firefly looks like a normal kiddo.  It's me that looks like the irrational lunatic.

What if?  What if?  What if?...

I'm scared that this disability is most likely never-ending.  I only let myself go there for short bursts of time, because if I think about it too long, I will go into the depths from which I'm scared I may never have the strength to come out.  She's eleven now.  We've been living like this, every day, for eleven years.

What if it never stops?

What if she keeps growing and getting bigger and stronger and then instead of a petite pre-teen that I am restraining because of a meltdown over math, I have a seventeen year-old young lady that is out of control?

What if?  What if?  What if?...

Little bit of a difference, there.  And it scares me.  Again, for her, and for me, and for the rest of our family members.  'Cuz this kiddo can get a bit wild when she's off on a tangent.

I'm scared about the "what ifs".  What if something we tried in the past to help her instead will end up hurting her in the future?  What if she's never able to get off of her medication and it alters her brain chemistry forever?  What if there is that one perfect therapy that will "fix" her and we decide not to try it?  What if we do "fix" her and we take away another precious piece of her?  

What if?  What if?  What if?...

It's enough to turn you into that irrational lunatic I mentioned before.

I'm scared for the others in our family.  My dear Turtle and sweet Bug.  What hurts have been done to them as we all live with Firefly?  Turtle has said more than once that she will never have children, and although that may just be her teenaged hormones firing, it may be much more than that.  It may be that she thinks they are all like Firefly.  It may be that she's scared that hers will be.  It may be that she sees me not handling this parenting thing all that well on those tough days, and I've given her the impression that it's not worth it.

So much fear, worry, and, yes--still the anger.  And on my bad days, it can and very often will consume me.  And that's not pretty at all.

But on my good days, I know that My Father has placed a bit of his word on my heart.  Does this sound familiar?

"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God."  (Philippians 4:6)

God knows.  He knows.  And He's got this.

Man, I wish I would remember that!

Are fear or anger a big piece of your family's struggles with SPD?  I'd love to know what works for you...

Thursday, April 3, 2014


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